I have a really hard time with change.
And I’m not talking about the kind that jingles in your pocket. I’m talking about the real deal, life-can-change-on-a-dime type of change.
Some days, it feels like that is all this last year has been. One constant adjustment after another in a seemingly endless stream of “new normals.” Some days, it feels impossible to hang on to anything.
When I’m feeling this way, I often look to my animals for some reprieve. Lately, it has been the quail we hatched in our incubator that are now all of ten days old.
Not only are they unbelievably cute, they change practically right before your eyes. The picture at the beginning of this post was taken when they were only 8 days old, and already you can see that they are losing their baby chick fuzz and are starting to feather out into the mature birds they will become. It’s like they have hit some funny version of quail puberty. It’s awkward and adorable.
We have already had to change their brooder (their little indoor home before they are old enough to live in a coop outside) because they started jumping high enough to jump completely out.
Did you know that quail jump? I didn’t. Apparently, they have a very sensitive startle reflex, and whenever they are surprised (which is often), they shoot straight up into the air. It provides great comic relief when things get too heavy around here.
But the thing I am focused on now is how quickly they change and how utterly ok with it they are.
Change is their nature. And they don’t waste one ounce of energy trying to resist it. Change is their evolutionary instinct, and it is really beautiful to behold.
It reminds me that change is really the nature of everything, including ourselves. Resisting change as it unfolds is as futile as trying to house-train a quail to be so calm that it won’t ever jump out of its brooder. You just can’t do it no matter how hard you try.
One of the things I’m trying to do in my yoga right now is to let myself soften into change. And I mean that in a very literal sense. I literally try to soften and relax my body into my yoga sequence as it changes from pose to pose. I try to soften my jaw and my face as my breath changes from inhale to exhale. I try to soften into the ground beneath me, even when it feels like the ground is falling out from under me. And then in the final resting pose of savasana, I try to imagine softening and dropping down so completely that I become totally non-resistant.
That’s not to say that it always works. But at least I’m trying. And it does help. Just like watching my quail feather out and outgrow their cozy home.
I hope that you are weathering the change of the past year in a way that works for you.
I hope that you are able to soften wherever you can, and most especially, I hope you are able stay soft towards yourself. The world needs that right now. And each on of us deserves that softness.
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